A Conversation with Self-Portrait Photographer, Shannon O'Malley

I recently had a chance to chat with Shannon O'Malley, a self-portrait photographer based in Minnesota. We explored her artistic path and delved into the intricacies of her photography business. I think you'll find the discussion both insightful and engaging.

AA: Hello Shannon, could you tell us about your background?

SO: From an early age, I’ve always been captivated by storytelling. I found that a photograph could tell a story more powerfully than words. Growing up in Minnesota, I was surrounded by the beauty of nature, family moments, and life’s little milestones, which inspired me to pick up a camera. I wanted to capture those fleeting, meaningful moments—whether it was the way the light hit a subject’s face or the raw emotions exchanged in a candid moment.

AA: What inspired you to pursue photography as a career?

SO: Photography began as a passion, but it also became a practical solution as I balanced being a full-time working mom. As a single mother, I was always looking for ways to not only express my creativity but also support my family. Photography offered a flexible and rewarding way to earn extra income while doing something I loved.

SO: It started as a side hustle, capturing portraits for friends and family, but quickly grew into something much more. As I transitioned into professional photography, I realized how fulfilling it was to build relationships with my clients, make them feel comfortable, and ensure that they look and feel their best. Now, photography allows me the flexibility to be present for my child and my new husband while also pursuing a career that I’m passionate about.

SO: Today, I focus on capturing everything from dating profile portraits to family milestones, knowing that each session is an opportunity to create timeless images that my clients will treasure for generations.

AA: How did you become interested in pursuing self-portrait photography?

SO: I became interested in self-portrait photography as a way to connect more deeply with both my craft and myself. Initially, it started as a means to experiment with lighting, posing, and composition, without the pressure of working with a client. I could take my time, test new techniques, and refine my skills while being my own subject. As I progressed, it became more than just a technical exercise—it evolved into a form of self-expression and a way to tell my personal story.

SO: As a single mom working full-time, photography was my creative outlet, and self-portraiture allowed me to explore how I was feeling during certain stages of life. Whether it was moments of strength, vulnerability, or empowerment, being in front of the camera helped me see myself in a new way and channel those emotions into my work. It became a form of visual journaling, where I could document my journey both personally and professionally.

SO: Through this process, I gained a new perspective on how my clients might feel in front of the camera. It helped me develop empathy and a better understanding of how to make people feel comfortable and confident during their sessions.

SO: Ultimately, it allowed me to grow as both an artist and a photographer, using self-portraits to explore new creative boundaries while helping my clients connect more authentically with the camera.

AA: What type of self-portrait photography style do you specialize in, and how does it set you apart from other portrait photographers?

SO: I specialize in a style of self-portrait photography that focuses on storytelling, emotion, and authenticity. My approach is a blend of natural, lifestyle-driven imagery with a fine-art touch. I aim to capture genuine emotions and moments of introspection rather than just static poses. Whether I’m exploring themes of empowerment, vulnerability, or joy, each self-portrait is meant to tell a story that reflects where I am emotionally or creatively at that point in time.

SO: What sets my self-portrait photography apart is the deep emotional connection I strive to convey. As someone who values both the technical and emotive sides of photography, I aim to make my self-portraits feel relatable to others—whether it’s through the use of moody lighting, raw expressions, or carefully chosen settings that reflect my personal experiences. I often shoot in natural light and everyday environments, adding a sense of realism and connection to the final image.

SO: This emotional depth, combined with my use of natural elements and storytelling, allows me to create portraits that go beyond just aesthetics. It’s about using photography as a medium for self-reflection and personal growth, while also creating work that resonates with viewers on an emotional level.

Additionally, my experience as both the photographer and the subject has given me a unique perspective. I understand the vulnerability of being in front of the camera, and this helps me guide my clients through their own portraits, helping them feel seen and understood. This duality in my work is what I believe makes my style distinct in the world of portrait photography.

AA: What style of photography do you like the least and why? Could you please share the reasons behind your dislike for this particular style of photography?

SO: While I appreciate the skill and creativity that goes into every form of photography, one style that resonates the least with me is heavily staged or overly artificial photography—especially in portrait sessions. By this, I mean photography that relies heavily on forced poses, unnatural backdrops, and overly retouched images where the final product feels disconnected from the subject's true personality.

SO: For me, photography is about capturing real, raw emotions and telling a story through the lens, so I find it challenging to connect with styles that prioritize perfection over authenticity. I feel that when a photo is too contrived, it loses the genuine connection and emotion that can make an image truly special. Photography, in my view, should allow people to feel seen, not manufactured.

SO: This doesn’t mean that posed photography doesn’t have its place—there’s certainly value in it for editorial work, fashion, and certain professional environments. However, for the type of work I do, particularly with families, seniors, or dating profiles, I find that natural, candid moments often hold more weight and depth.

SO: In short, my preference leans heavily toward organic and genuine imagery, where the subject’s true self shines through. When photos are overly edited or lack that emotional connection, I feel it can dilute the very essence of what makes photography so powerful.

AA: What professional photographers have influenced your work, and how do you incorporate their techniques into your photographs?

SO: Several professional photographers have greatly influenced my work, both in terms of style and approach.

1. Annie Leibovitz – Her ability to capture powerful emotions and tell a story through her images has always inspired me. I admire how she combines raw human expression with dramatic, almost cinematic lighting. I strive to incorporate storytelling into my sessions, whether it's through the way I position clients or by creating an atmosphere where their emotions can shine

   through authentically.

   
   

2. Sue Bryce – Known for her elegant, fine-art portraits, Bryce's work has had a big impact on how I approach both my maternity and senior sessions. Her use of natural light and her attention to posing that flatters each individual have taught me how to make my clients feel confident and beautiful, while also creating timeless images that they’ll treasure.

   
   

3. Jasmine Star – I admire her emphasis on personal branding and creating a connection with clients. She brings an authenticity and realness to her photography that resonates with me. She’s taught me how important it is to make people feel at ease during a session, which in turn allows me to capture their true essence.

AA: How long do your photo sessions typically last when working with your clients?

SO: My photo sessions vary in length depending on the type of session and the needs of the client. Here’s a breakdown of typical session times:

1. Online Dating Portraits: These sessions typically last anywhere from 1 to 3 hours. The timing depends on the package chosen, the number of outfits, and the variety of locations we decide to shoot in. I like to take the time to ensure we capture the perfect range of images to represent your authentic self.

   
   

2. Senior Portraits: Senior sessions usually run about 2 hours. This gives us plenty of time to explore different outfits, settings, and poses to showcase your personality as you celebrate this important milestone.

   
   

3. Family, Newborn, and Maternity Sessions: These sessions generally last around 1 hour. During this time, we focus on capturing genuine moments and emotions, whether it's the anticipation of welcoming a new baby, celebrating family connections, or documenting the beauty of motherhood.

Each session is designed to provide a comfortable, laid-back experience while allowing for a comprehensive set of high-quality images.

AA: What is the difference between a mini-session and a complete family portrait session?

SO: The primary difference between a mini-session and a complete family portrait session comes down to time, scope, and depth of the experience.

Mini-Session:

• Duration: Typically, 15-30 minutes, designed to be quick and efficient.

• Fewer Images: You get fewer final images, usually focusing on a small selection of shots, and there is often little time for wardrobe changes or multiple locations.

• Quick Setup: These sessions tend to be pre-planned with set locations and themes, offering less flexibility for personal touches or capturing candid, authentic moments.

SO: Because mini-sessions are shorter, I find they don't always allow enough time to build rapport and get those genuine, heartfelt interactions that I love to capture. The goal is to provide a quicker, budget-friendly option, but it can feel rushed.

Complete Family Portrait Session:

• Duration: Typically, around 1 hour, which allows for a more relaxed pace.

• More Images: You receive a more comprehensive gallery with a wider variety of shots, capturing different moods, interactions, and settings.

• Personalized Experience: These sessions are fully customizable, with more time for location changes, wardrobe adjustments, and candid moments that reflect the authentic dynamics of your family.

SO: In a complete session, I have the time to get to know the family, ensure everyone feels comfortable, and create those authentic, emotional images that reflect your family's unique bond.

SO: In short, while mini sessions offer a quick snapshot, a complete session allows for a deeper, more meaningful experience, where we can truly capture the heart of your family.

AA: When deciding on pricing for my photography services, I consider several key factors to ensure my rates reflect both the value I offer and the needs of my clients:

SO:

1. Cost of Doing Business:

• Time and Expenses: I factor in the time it takes for consultations, the session itself, editing, and final delivery. I also account for business expenses such as equipment, software, marketing, insurance, and travel.

• Materials: For services that include physical products, like prints or albums, the cost of producing and delivering those items is calculated into the final price.

2. Client Experience:

• All-Inclusive Services: My packages are designed to provide a seamless experience from start to finish. The more comprehensive the service (like maternity or family sessions with wardrobe consultations, location scouting, and personalized albums), the higher the rate to reflect the value and time commitment.

• Time Involved: Longer sessions, like full family or senior portraits, require more planning, editing, and deliverables than shorter mini-sessions, so the pricing reflects that additional time.

3. Market Research:

• I evaluate what other photographers in my area and niche are charging to ensure my pricing is competitive while also aligning with the high quality of service I provide. I aim to offer rates that match my skill level and experience without undervaluing my work or pricing myself out of the market.

4. Value and Expertise:

• Experience and Specialization: As a photographer with years of experience in capturing everything from senior portraits to newborn sessions, I price my services to reflect the expertise and value I bring to each session. This includes the personalized touch and creative vision that go into every project.

• Client Results: I think about the lasting value I provide through my images—timeless, meaningful memories that clients will cherish. The emotional and artistic value of these photographs is factored into my pricing.

5. Flexibility for Add-Ons:

• I also offer add-on services, such as styling consultations or print packages, that clients can choose to enhance their experience. These optional add-ons allow for flexible pricing while giving clients the opportunity to personalize their package.

Ultimately, I strike a balance between covering my costs, reflecting my expertise, and ensuring that my clients feel they are getting high value for their investment. This way, I can provide a high-quality experience without compromising on the time and effort it takes to create meaningful images.

AA: How do you make a client feel comfortable?

SO: Creating a comfortable atmosphere for my clients is one of my top priorities because I believe that the best photos come from people who feel relaxed and confident. Here’s how I approach it:

1. Building Rapport: Before the session even begins, I take the time to chat with my clients. Whether it’s via email, phone, or an in-person consultation, I want to get to know them. This helps break the ice and allows us to connect on a personal level. By the time the shoot starts, it feels more like spending time with a friend than a photographer.

   
   

2. Guidance & Reassurance: I don’t expect my clients to know exactly how to pose or act in front of the camera. That’s my job! Throughout the session, I offer gentle guidance and reassurance, showing them how to stand, move, and relax in ways that look natural. I also encourage them to embrace candid moments, which often leads to the most authentic and beautiful images.

   
   

3. Positive Feedback: During the shoot, I constantly offer positive feedback. If a pose or expression looks great, I make sure they know it. This builds confidence and helps them feel comfortable being themselves.

   
   

4. Creating a Relaxed Environment: Whether I’m working with a family, a senior, or someone for their online dating profile, I aim to keep the atmosphere light and fun. I’ll often crack jokes or engage them in conversation about something they enjoy to keep the mood relaxed.

AA: How do you deal with a client who is unhappy with their photos?

SO: Thankfully, this situation is rare, but if a client is ever unhappy with their photos, I handle it with empathy, professionalism, and a commitment to making things right.

1. Listening and Understanding: The first step is to listen carefully to their concerns without being defensive. I want to fully understand what they don’t like and why. Whether it’s about the lighting, the editing, or the posing, I need to know their perspective so I can address it.

   
   

2. Offering Solutions: Once I understand their concerns, I’ll offer a solution. This could involve re-editing a few images to better suit their preferences or offering to reshoot certain parts of the session, especially if something didn’t go as planned. My goal is to ensure the client is satisfied with the final product.

   
   

3. Maintaining Open Communication: I always make sure to keep the lines of communication open, so the client feels comfortable voicing any issues. My priority is to ensure they feel heard and that we work together to create images they love.

   
   

4. Learning from Feedback: Even though it’s tough to hear that a client isn’t happy, I use these situations as opportunities to learn and improve. I reflect on what could have been done differently and incorporate that into my workflow moving forward.

AA: Please describe a challenging photo shoot you experienced and how you overcame the obstacles.

SO: One of the most challenging photo shoots I experienced was an outdoor family session in early spring here in Minnesota. The weather is always unpredictable during that time, and on the day of the shoot, the temperature suddenly dropped, and the wind picked up drastically. The family had young children, which added to the challenge because they were feeling the cold even more than the adults, making it hard to keep everyone comfortable and engaged.

SO: The first step I took to overcome this was communication and reassurance. I let the family know we could take breaks to warm up, and I kept the session light-hearted to avoid stress, especially for the kids. I also worked quickly to capture key shots before everyone got too cold.

SO: I changed up my usual approach by focusing on more dynamic shots that allowed the family to move around—this kept them warmer and made the session feel like more of a fun activity. We played little games like “run to mom and dad,” and those candid moments turned out to be some of the best shots.

SO: Despite the harsh conditions, the images turned out beautifully, with genuine smiles and warm family moments. It was a reminder that flexibility, quick thinking, and making sure the clients feel taken care of are key to overcoming challenges in any photo shoot. This experience also taught me that some of the most unexpected conditions can lead to the most authentic and heartfelt images.

AA:  Given the choice, do you find more fulfillment and satisfaction in pursuing photography as a profession compared to your previous 9-5 job?

SO: Absolutely. While my 9-5 job provided stability, there’s a level of fulfillment that photography brings that I never experienced in the corporate world. Photography allows me to connect with people on a deeper, more personal level—capturing real emotions and stories. Being able to help families, individuals, and couples preserve moments they’ll cherish forever is incredibly rewarding.

SO: Photography also offers me the creative freedom to express myself in ways that I wasn’t able to in a traditional job. Every session is different, and I love the challenge of bringing someone’s vision to life while also leaving my creative mark on it.

SO: Moreover, as a single mom, photography gave me the flexibility I needed to spend more time with my son while still pursuing my passion and supplementing my income. It's been an amazing journey, and being able to turn my side hustle into a successful full-time career has been life-changing. The sense of satisfaction I get from creating meaningful work that impacts others is something that a 9-5 just couldn't provide me with.

AA: Can you tell us more about your "Unleash Your Inner Artist: Master the Art of Self-Portrait Photography" program?

SO: The Self-Portrait Masterclass" is a comprehensive program designed to guide individuals through the process of mastering self-portrait photography. Whether you're a photographer looking to hone your skills or someone who simply wants to explore their creative side, this course is tailored to help you express yourself through imagery.

SO: The course covers everything from the technical aspects, like camera settings and lighting, to the more personal side, like posing, storytelling, and building confidence in front of the camera. What sets this program apart is that it’s not just about taking photos—it’s about exploring your personal story and creativity through the lens. I teach participants how to use self-portraits as a form of self-expression, reflection, and growth.

Participants will learn:

• How to set up your camera for self-portraits, even if you're working alone.

• Creative ways to use lighting, angles, and locations to capture the essence of your story.

• Techniques to feel more comfortable in front of the camera.

• Posing tips and how to embrace both your strengths and imperfections to create authentic, beautiful images.

• The importance of storytelling in self-portrait photography and how to convey emotion through your photos.

Throughout the course, I provide personal feedback, exercises, and resources to help students tap into their inner artist and create images that resonate with them. This course is perfect for both beginners and experienced photographers looking to challenge themselves creatively.

Ultimately, “The Self-Portrait Masterclass” is about more than just photography—it’s about building confidence, capturing authenticity, and seeing yourself through a new lens.

AA: What does success look like for you as an artist?

SO: For me, success as an artist goes beyond just producing beautiful images. It’s about creating work that resonates emotionally with the people I photograph, helping them feel seen and valued. Success is when my clients look at their photos and see more than just an image—they see a memory, a milestone, or a part of their story that’s been authentically captured.

SO: In more practical terms, success is about building lasting relationships with my clients, many of whom return for multiple sessions as their families grow or as they experience new life stages. It’s also about pushing my creative boundaries, continuously learning, and exploring new ways to tell stories through my work.

SO: Ultimately, success as an artist is when I am able to balance creativity with a thriving business that allows me to support my family, while doing what I love every day. If I can continue to create meaningful images that touch people’s lives, that’s success for me.

AA: What message or emotions do you hope to convey through your photography?

SO: Through my photography, I strive to convey a message of authenticity, connection, and timelessness. Whether I'm capturing a senior stepping into a new chapter of life, a family’s deep bonds, or the excitement of welcoming a newborn, my goal is to create images that are not only beautiful but also filled with genuine emotion.

SO: I want my clients to see themselves as they truly are—confident, joyful, and full of life. At the same time, I aim to preserve these moments in a way that will resonate for generations. There’s a certain vulnerability and openness in letting someone capture your story, and I want that to come through in my work: a celebration of life’s imperfect, fleeting, and deeply personal moments.

SO: In each photograph, I hope to evoke emotions of warmth, love, and nostalgia, helping my clients feel a sense of pride and happiness when they reflect on these moments. Ultimately, I want my work to be a reminder of the connections that matter most—whether it’s the bond between family members or the story of an individual’s journey.

AA: Describe one of your best photos and what makes it great.

SO: One of my best photos is this self-portrait taken in my bedroom (shown below). What makes this image stand out is how it captures a raw and authentic moment in the most natural of settings. I shot this during a quiet moment, allowing myself to feel completely free and uninhibited.

SO: The soft natural light streaming through the window enhances the mood of the photo, casting gentle rays across the frame. The positioning of my legs and arms creates an intentional yet spontaneous feel, as if caught mid-dance, which gives the image an artistic yet relaxed vibe. The surrounding shadows and muted colors also contribute to the emotional depth of the image, making it feel intimate and personal.

SO: The reason why I believe this photograph is one of my best is due to the combination of vulnerability, artistry, and technical execution. It allows the viewer to step into a private moment and experience the peace and beauty of quiet self-reflection. It’s these elements—authenticity, subtlety, and the play between light and dark—that, for me, define what a great photograph should convey.

AA: What do you consider your strengths? What are your weaknesses?

SO: Strengths: One of my greatest strengths as a photographer is my ability to create authentic connections with my clients, which allows me to capture genuine emotions and natural moments in my photos. This connection helps my clients feel comfortable and relaxed in front of the camera, leading to images that truly reflect who they are. Another strength is my artistic approach to lighting and composition, which allows me to create images with depth, emotion, and a distinct style.

SO: Additionally, I consider my attention to detail to be a major strength. I am meticulous in the way I compose my shots, select locations, and edit images, ensuring that every aspect of the photo adds to its overall story. I also pride myself on my flexibility and creativity, always open to experimenting with new angles, techniques, and ideas that set my work apart.

SO: Weaknesses: A challenge I face is balancing the creative and business sides of photography. As an artist, I love focusing on the creative aspects, but managing the business—such as administrative tasks, marketing, and pricing—can sometimes be overwhelming.

SO: Another weakness is my tendency to be overly critical of my work. While being detail-oriented is a strength, it can also lead to spending excessive time perfecting images. I’ve had to learn to trust my initial instincts and not get stuck in the cycle of over-editing or second-guessing my choices.

SO: Lastly, I sometimes struggle with saying no to new projects or clients, even when my schedule is already full. This can lead to burnout, so I’m continuously working on setting better boundaries to protect my creative energy and ensure I’m delivering the best results for every client.

AA: If you could have dinner with any photographer, alive or dead, who would it be, and what might you ask them?

SO: If I could have dinner with any photographer, it would be Annie Leibovitz. Not only is she one of the most iconic portrait photographers of our time, but her ability to tell stories through imagery and capture the essence of her subjects is something I deeply admire.

SO: During dinner, I would ask her about her thought process in crafting those larger-than-life yet intimate portraits, such as her work with celebrities, world leaders, and cultural figures. Specifically, I'd love to know:

SO: How she connects so deeply with her subjects and makes them comfortable, even in highly staged or grandiose settings.

SO: How she balances artistic direction with capturing authentic moments in portraits. What her approach is when tackling complex lighting and composition in varied, challenging environments.

SO: I’d also ask about her evolution from documentary-style photography to more stylized editorial shoots and how she maintains creativity while navigating commercial constraints.

SO: Lastly, I’d love to hear about her personal journey as a female photographer in a competitive field and how she manages to keep pushing boundaries in her work over decades.

SO: Her career has been filled with risks, innovation, and storytelling—traits that I try to incorporate into my work, and I'd love to hear her insights firsthand.

AA: Explain three ways to use light to create a powerful photo.

Here are three impactful ways to use light to create a powerful photo:

1. Backlighting for Drama and Silhouettes

Backlighting involves positioning the main light source behind your subject, which can create striking silhouettes or glowing edges, adding depth and emotion to your photos. This technique works well during golden hour (just before sunset or after sunrise), as the soft light creates warmth and drama. Backlighting also highlights textures like hair or fabric, giving the image a dreamy, ethereal quality. For silhouettes, you can expose for the sky, creating high contrast between the dark subject and the bright background.

2. Side Lighting for Depth and Dimension

Side lighting, where the light comes from a 90-degree angle to the subject, enhances texture and depth in a photo by creating contrast between light and shadows. This technique is especially effective in portrait photography, as it sculpts the subject’s face and body, giving the image more character and dimension. Side lighting is also ideal for still life or landscape photography, where it adds a sense of texture and mood, emphasizing the details that might otherwise be missed.

3. Soft Diffused Light for Natural, Flattering Portraits

Diffused light, which scatters light evenly across the subject, reduces harsh shadows and softens features. This type of light is perfect for creating flattering portraits, as it smooths skin tones and brings out natural beauty. Overcast days provide naturally diffused light, but you can also create it using reflectors, light modifiers, or shooting in shaded areas. This technique is ideal for minimizing distractions and focusing on the subject’s expression and emotional presence.

These lighting techniques, when applied with intent, can dramatically enhance the mood, texture, and depth of a photo, making it more emotionally compelling and visually striking.

AA: What are your favorite locations to make art with your camera?

SO: My favorite locations to make art with my camera tend to be places that offer a mix of natural beauty, texture, and soft lighting. Here are a few top choices:

1. At-Home Sessions: There’s something intimate and raw about capturing moments in someone’s home, where they feel most comfortable. The familiar setting brings out genuine emotions and allows me to play with natural light coming through windows and doors, making the images feel both personal and artistic.

   
   

2. Open Fields at Golden Hour: Open fields, especially during the golden hour, provide the perfect backdrop for family sessions, senior portraits, or even self-portraits. The soft light of the setting sun casts a beautiful warm glow, while the wide, unobstructed space creates a sense of freedom and calm that shines through in the photos.

   
   

3. Urban Settings with Unique Architecture: I also enjoy shooting in urban environments with lots of texture, like brick walls, old buildings, or alleyways. These locations offer contrast, depth, and an edgy vibe, which I love to incorporate into portrait sessions, especially for dating profiles or senior portraits.

   
   

4. Lakes and Forests in Minnesota: Living in Minnesota, I’m spoiled with access to picturesque lakes and dense forests. I love capturing maternity or family sessions by the water or within a forest setting, using nature’s organic elements to tell a story of connection and peace.

What’s great about all of these locations is their versatility—each one offers something unique that can be adapted to the client’s story and the mood I want to create.

AA: What would you say if you had the world's attention for 5 minutes? 

SO: If I had the world's attention for five minutes, I'd use that time to talk about the power of authentic connection, the beauty of vulnerability, and the importance of embracing your unique story. Too often, we are caught in a cycle of comparison, social media highlight reels, and unrealistic expectations. I would encourage everyone to step back from that and realize that who you are, in your most genuine form, is enough—and that the world needs your voice, your story.

SO: I’d emphasize the power of kindness and empathy, how taking small moments to truly listen and connect with others can change lives. We often underestimate how our words and actions, even the smallest ones, can leave lasting impressions.

SO: Lastly, I would remind people to find and follow their passions. In the chaos of life, it’s easy to lose sight of what lights us up. We all have something inside us that drives us—whether it’s art, advocacy, science, or service—and that thing is what the world needs from you.

SO: In short, I’d encourage the world to slow down, appreciate each moment, and be brave enough to be themselves while showing kindness to others and the earth.

AA: Shannon, I appreciate you sharing a lot about yourself and your photography

journey! I wish you the best of luck in all your future pursuits!

Shannon Omalley - MN Photographer & Educator

For further details on Shannon Kathleen Photography, please visit her website provided below.

https://shannonkathleenphotography.com/

Unleash Your Inner Artist: Master the Art of Self-Portrait Photography:

https://shannonkathleenphotography.com/courses

*** All photos by Shannon Kathleen Photography, unless otherwise noted **

Unveiling the World of Cosplay and Nerd Culture: A Conversation with Carly

I recently connected with Carly, who shares my passion for nerd culture and cosplay. She shared valuable perspectives on her experiences in the nerd community, sparking an engaging conversation that you're sure to find enjoyable!

AA: Hello Carly!! Where are you from? And what was your upbringing like for you?

C: I was born and raised in Georgia, and lucky enough to be brought up in a two-parent household with parents who absolutely adored one another. Both of my parents were extremely supportive in any endeavor. My friends used to joke that my family and I were like the Cleavers from Leave it to Beaver. My immediate and extended family were very close when I was growing up as well. We would routinely have dinner as a family almost every night and would usually have Jeopardy on the TV in the background.

AA: How did you become interested in nerd culture, and what sparked your initial interest? Was it movies, shows, or books? If so what was your favorite movie, show, and books?

C: I blame my older brother. He was quiet, artistic, and super into comics and nerd culture in general. I just remember always thinking he was so cool and my need to try and impress him, especially since I was a girl.

While most girls grew up playing with Barbies and baby dolls, I preferred action figures, matchbox cars, video games, and playing sports with my dad.

C: I’ve also loved movies for as long as I can remember as well. One of my most prized possessions was my tiny tv with a built-in VCR I got one year for Christmas. I would save up my allowance each week and spend most of my money on physical media, purchasing VHS copies of video rentals from one of the flea market vendors.

C: My favorite movies around this time were Braveheart, Clueless, and Scream. We didn’t get cable or a satellite dish until I was in high school, so I didn’t watch a lot of tv growing up. My favorite tv shows were Saturday morning cartoons, Saturday Night Live, and late night tv shows that I could watch during the Summer months while school was out.

C: I usually had some book or comic book I was reading as well. 

AA: How long have you been going to Dragon Con? What has your experience been like in the time you guys have been going to it? Have you met any follow cosplayers, attended panels, or met celebs?

C: I first got turned on to Dragon Con in 2004 when I started talking to a guy on a dating website who was a volunteer at the con. He convinced me to go for the first time in 2004 by smuggling me in using one of the other volunteer badges. He ended up showing me around the con that day, and I’ve been hooked ever since. I will never forget the first celebrity I met in 2004. It was Marc Singer (the Beastmaster). I remember walking by his table, and he must have noticed me fangirling over him because he beckoned me to approach his table. We ended up talking for a few minutes. I told him how much I loved him in Beastmaster and the television show V, and then asked if I could take a picture with him. He graciously obliged my request and didn’t even ask for any money. I ended up revisiting him the next year and made sure I purchased an autographed photograph of him. He was just as gracious and friendly the next year.

C: Most of my friends would typically cosplay during some of the days of the con throughout the years, but my husband and I didn’t start cosplaying until 2019. We’ve attended many panels over the years with some of my favorites being a John Cusack panel, an Expanse panel, and a Farscape panel. The short film festival has always been a favorite as well; however, they haven’t had any film festivals since 2019. One of our close friends was prior roommates with Cooper Andrews, so in 2019 we ended up partying with several members of The Walking Dead TV show, including Ross Marquand, Cooper Andrews, Dan Fogler, and Seth Gilliam.

AA: Can you tell me how you got interested in cosplaying? Which characters have you cosplayed as, and which characters would you like to cosplay in the future?

C: So, I always loved seeing all of the creative cosplays at Dragon Con, but never felt confident enough to pull one off until 2019. In 2019 I decided I would cosplay as the movie version of Ramona Flowers. My husband helped put together and build the hammer prop that does +2 damage to girls.  Since that first year I decided to cosplay, I have made a comic version Ramona Flowers cosplay, Tank Girl, and Little Debbie Harry mashup cosplay. I would love to do a Claire Redfield, Jill Valentine, Pris (Bladerunner), Ellen Ripley, and countless other cosplays at a future Dragon Con.

AA: How long does it take to create all of the cosplays you’ve done so far and how much does it cost to make everything? 

C: It depends on the cosplay and what it entails. I try to choose cosplays where it will be relatively easy to purchase most of the clothing and accessories I’ll be using since I have zero sewing/seamstress skills. I utilize Amazon quite a bit for a lot of the clothing and accessories. Working on the props that I use for the cosplays is probably my favorite part because it usually gives me a chance to flex my creative muscle by brainstorming designs and painting/coloring. I’m most proud of the large hammer, Tank Girl helmet, and Tank Girl bomb/rocket packet props. I couldn’t have completed any of them without the help from my husband. As far as the cost? If you have more time to put the cosplays together, you can definitely do them on a smaller budget by taking your time looking online, searching for sales, or even secondhand stores/flea markets.

AA: Do you have any favorite comic books that you enjoy reading?

C: I love reading comics. Most of my comic collecting and reading was from the age of 8-13. I always enjoyed comics and reading, but didn’t get back into reading/collecting until one of my friends introduced me to The Walking Dead in 2005. He let me borrow all the issues he had at the time, and I was hooked. I’ve collected the entire series since then. Other comic series I enjoy and highly recommend are Conan the Barbarian, Fables, Locke & Key (although I hated the television show), Judge Dredd, Y: The Last Man, Saga, and X-Men: Inferno.

AA: What are some of your favorite comic book characters and why? 

C: Rick Grimes and Andrea Harrison from The Walking Dead. I’m still pissed about how much the tv show ruined Andrea’s character. Regarding superhero-type comic characters, I’d say Jean Grey, Rogue, Psylocke, and of course, fan favorite, Wolverine.

AA: What topic or event opened your eyes to the world?

C: Probably 9/11 when I was a senior in high school.

AA: Have you ever experienced paranormal events in your life?

C: I don’t feel like I’ve ever really experienced real paranormal events. Anytime I see a cardinal (bird) I always think about my father though. My mother used to tell me stories of her parents performing seances when she was a child.

AA: Do you enjoy playing video games?

C: Yes, I love playing video games. I never seem to have the time to play them though. Which gaming system were you most fond of growing up? I loved all the ones I was lucky enough to play and own. I had a Nintendo, Sega Genesis, PS1, and PS2. I’d probably say my favorite overall was PC. I spent countless hours playing Doom II, Warcraft II, StarCraft,  and Vampire The Masquerade: Bloodlines. Some newer games that I’ve really enjoyed are the Telltale Series, Friday The 13th: The Game, Phasmophobia, and Helldivers 2.

AA: What is your favorite video game character?

C: Probably Fem Shep (Female version of Commander Shepard from the Mass Effect series). I love the fact that you can play her either as the ultimate hero or the ultimate asshole. Some nice follow-up picks are Blaze Fielding from Streets of Rage series, and Jill Valentine from Resident Evil. I’m always picking Chun-Li for Street Fighter. I can relate to her thunder thighs.

AA: What is your favorite video game character?

C: Probably Fem Shep (Female version of Commander Shepard from the Mass Effect series). I love the fact that you can play her either as the ultimate hero or the ultimate asshole. Some nice follow-up picks are Blaze Fielding from Streets of Rage series, and Jill Valentine from Resident Evil. I’m always picking Chun-Li for Street Fighter. I can relate to her thunder thighs.

AA: Given the chance to inhabit a video game world, which would you choose and why?  

C: The Mass Effect universe. It feels like the perfect sci-fi world. Hot alien babes, it’s own version of Star Wars the force, and amazing technology. The only thing I’d have to worry about are the Reapers, so maybe I’d want to choose the video game world, post-Reapers.

AA: Can video games serve an educational purpose? If so, in what ways?

C: I think they certainly can. They can help support the development of critical thinking skills and depending on the type of game, the importance of working as a team.

What aspects of gaming do you find most enjoyable? I’m a very competitive person and I get the most satisfaction from playing coop games. I love teaming up with others to defeat the common enemy in the game. There’s also a little sense of accomplishment when you’re able to finally beat a particularly hard part in a video game.

AA: What do you consider the most challenging aspect of gaming? 

C: Some of the newer games controls are a little confusing to me due to my dyslexia. I usually end up getting the L and R mixed up until I play a game enough and develop more of a muscle memory of the controls.

AA: Who are your favorite bands and artists to listen to, and what genre do they belong to?

C: I have very eclectic taste in music. I love anything from hip hop to some old school country hits. Ghost, Gunship, Depeche Mode, The Cure, Nine Inch Nails, and VAST are some of my favorite bands.

AA: Tell me about the three most influential people in your life and how they affected you positively or negatively.

C: My father, my mother, and my brother are the three most influential people in my life. I’m incredibly thankful that my dad taught me the importance of hard work, perseverance, and a positive attitude. I’m thankful my mother taught me how to harness feminine power, and my brother opened my eyes to all of the nerd culture/pop culture stuff that I love so much.

AA: What is the biggest lesson you have ever learned in life?

C: If the past 5 years have taught me anything, it’s to stay true to your morals and values. If something feels wrong, then it probably is, and the only person that knows what’s best for them themselves is. I will never understand those that wish to assert control over others.

AA: What are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced in life?

C: 2011 was one of the craziest years of my life. I had married the love of my life in 2010, and we were settling into domestic bliss when my father was diagnosed with Mesothelioma in late 2010. We had originally planned to enjoy married life for a few years before starting our own family. I’m not sure if you’re familiar with Mesothelioma, but once someone is diagnosed, the survival rate is typically an additional 4 to 18 months. So upon getting this diagnosis, we both decided we were going to start trying to have a baby. It was our goal to spend as much time with my father, helping take care of him, and to have a baby before he died. It seemed like it was meant to be as I pretty much immediately got pregnant as soon as we started trying. I was stuck in Bloomington, IL for two weeks of work training when I found out I was pregnant. I didn’t understand how taxing it would be on my body to grow another individual while I was still working, trying to be a good wife, and taking care of my father as much as possible. A week before he passed away, I was able to obtain a 3D ultrasound video of my daughter, and thankfully, he was able to watch it as well. I thought he would make it to the birth of my daughter, but sadly, he passed away when I was about 7 months pregnant.

AA: How did you overcome them?

C: I have only overcome challenges head-on by confronting them and dealing with them head on.

AA: Tell us about how you and your husband met. What do you like about him? What made you feel he was the right guy for you? 

C: My friends regularly got together and played Texas Hold ‘Em. I remember meeting my husband in the same group of friends one night when we played poker in 2003. I was 19, and he was 16. I remember thinking he was super cute, but too young for me to date then. We continued to hang out with the same group of friends over the years, but I always seemed to be in a relationship with someone else. Fast forward to December 2008. I had just been laid off from my job and had dumped my ex after finding out he was cheating on me on the same day. A few days later, I decided to meet with a group of friends to hang out. After hanging out together in a group a few times, I sensed that he might be interested in me, so I sent him a text message asking if he might want to take me on a date at some point. He responded that he would love to. We ended up getting engaged about 6 months later and then married in March of 2010.

AA: What do I like about him?

C: His sense of humor, and sense of duty to his closest friends and family. He’s dependable. He can be counted on to do something when he says he will. He’s also great at fixing and installing things. I can’t count how much money he has saved us over the years due to him fixing and installing things himself.

I knew he was different and the right guy for me when my father met him and immediately liked him. My father had NEVER liked any of the guys I previously dated. Trey is my rock. Within the same year we married, my father became very ill and was diagnosed with Mesothelioma. I could not have asked for a better partner to navigate through my father’s illness and ultimate death.

AA: Please define motherhood in your own words? 

C: I always knew I wanted to have children and be a mother when I grew up. I was extremely close with my family and I couldn’t wait to have my own children and make my own new family traditions.

 AA: How do you find joy in motherhood?

C: The best part of motherhood is reliving my childhood through my own children and watching them learn and discover something for the first time.

AA: What is it like being a mother?

C: It’s pretty amazing being a mother. I grew two children in my body and gave birth to them.

AA: What has been the most rewarding thing for you as a mother? What has been motherhood's most challenging part, and how did you deal with it?

C: Breastfeeding and lack of sleep when both of my children were still babies was pretty difficult, but I can only imagine that the most challenging parts of motherhood are yet to come. As my children get older, I understand that life in general will become more challenging and complicated.

AA: How do you go about explaining things to your kids that are happening in the world?

C: I do my best to try and keep things simple for my children. They’re exposed to a lot more than I want them to be, but at least they know they can always come to me if they have questions about what’s going on. Thankfully, they do have good heads on their shoulders and in many ways they’re even more based than myself or their father. They are both very no-nonsense individuals.

Should everyone on the planet be striving toward a common goal?  

C: The only common goal individuals should be striving for is to live a meaningful life, and try to impose or encroach as little of themselves as they can on those around them. Everyone is different, so while we may have overlapping things that we strive for, it’s never going to just be one specific thing.

AA: What do you think the meaning of life is?

C: Crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentations of their women. Seriously though, I think you should try and leave it better than you found it. We live on in the hearts and memories of our friends and, of course genetically, through our family and offspring.

AA: Carly, we appreciate you sharing about your personal life and interests. Thank you.

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Behind the Mic: An Exclusive Interview with Stefanie Former Radio Personality and Podcaster

I recently had the pleasure of connecting with Stefanie, a former radio personality and podcaster known for her show "Stef's Rocks Show." During our conversation, Stefanie shared insights into her life journey and discussed how she first became involved in radio. It was a fascinating discussion, and I hope you will enjoy it as much as I did!

AA: Welcome, Stefanie!! Where are you from (tell your origin story)?

S: I was born and raised in Lodi, CA. When I was growing up in Lodi, it was a small farming community just 45 minutes south of Sacramento. I always thought of Sacramento as a big city prior to moving to Los Angeles. Growing up, I was more of a shy, awkward kid, very into school and competitive dance. As a teenager, I started to become more outgoing and confident, but I would still label myself as a late bloomer. In college, that was when I came alive, developed Stef's Rock Show on the college station, and my passion for music took off.

AA: What was your favorite childhood memory with your family?

S: I would definitely say Disneyland. Um, it's fascinating to me, people making fun of adults that like Disneyland. I get both. I get where everybody's coming from, right. So. And what I don't think they've understood or the people that I'm watching is. So my family fought a lot.

S: My parents did not like each other. They stayed together for me until I was 18. Right. Like, they did not want to be together, so. But the only time they didn't fight, so the best memories were Disneyland. And we went two to three times a year. We went a lot, and they would get along and we'd have a magical week.

S: And it was just so fun and almost unrealistic. So, Disneyland has the best childhood memories for me. And that's why I kind of like to go back when I can. It's so overpriced nowadays. But it's fascinating when people are like, it's weird when adults go, but I think some people don't realize, like, as kids, that was the only good memory you had. And you kind of relive it when you enter the park.

AA: What was your favorite part when you were a child, what was your favorite part in Disneyland to go to?

S: Just walking down Main Street, you know, when the gates open, I was a runner. Like, when they opened the gates, I ran in walking down Main Street, I'd smell the vanilla cones. I knew, like, I was in this magical fairy tale world where real issues didn't exist.

S: You can kind of leave those at the door and then also entering on Pirates of the Caribbean. Because you could smell Pirates of the Caribbean. And like, that smell of, uh, that was usually too. I'd go to Adventureland first, and that was one of the first rides I would hit, so that's just like a good use of a good question. I haven't thought about that.

AA: Did you have any like favorite Disney princesses that you grew up with that you like slowly when you were a child that you dressed up as well?

S:  Ariel is my favorite Disney princess, but I think because I didn't have red hair until much later in life, I always liked to dress up as Sleeping Beauty. And funny story, the UOP dance team and I got in trouble one time at Disneyland because we didn't know it was a rule that basically when you're not a little girl, you can't dress up as a Disney princess because kids could get confused.

S: So, the whole dance team picked a Disney princess, and mine was Sleeping Beauty. We dressed up really cute in the actual outfits, and we got escorted off to the side. They gave us more outfits, and we had to change in the bathroom from our Disney princess outfits to regular shirts.

S: Yeah, I get it, though, right? Because we're 18 or 19. We could have said a bad word. We could have been bad college kids, and we're dressed as princesses. So, I understand where the park was coming from, that little kids could have gotten confused and thought, "Oh, Cinderella is talking about drinking beer, mom."

AA: How did you discover your talent for radio, interviewing, and journalism? Were you always good at talking to people and writing, or did these skills develop with a lot of practice?

S: While in college, I became confident. Getting away from my toxic parents allowed me to shine and gain confidence. I do not have a filter; I say whatever comes to mind. I really care about interviews, and I think that shows.

AA: Please share your journey to becoming a journalist in the rock and roll music genre. Explain why you decided to pursue a career in journalism, and also talk about the opportunities that came your way

S: I started because I heard on the college dance team communication was an easy major. Honestly, I just wanted to party and travel with the college dance team. I worked so hard to get great grades prior to college and didn't party; therefore, in college, it was my time to play. Little did I know how much I would love radio and public relations. I grew up with my parents playing Motley Crue, Aerosmith, Ozzy, etc. I love all genres of music but wanted to focus on rock music and interviewing people in the rock/metal scene.

AA: So how did you get this opportunity at Playboy radio? And what were your responsibilities at that job as an intern?

S: Honestly, this is funny. Uh, Craigslist. Uh, Craigslist. So, um, um, my buddy Scott had already moved to LA six months prior, and he told me about Santa Monica. And he's like, I want you to move down. And I had wanted to go to LA. That was the thing. So I was looking for jobs on Craigslist. Well, there was a Craigslist ad to come on to Playboy radio, and it was like, can a bunny tell a funny? And it was like cute girls to try to make people laugh, like, okay, why don't I try out for that? And, uh, I've done small comedy hosting gigs and stuff like that.

S: Comedy is really hard. I could never do it. But I love doing like a two-minute comedy set to introduce somebody. And so, I went down, they said I did great, and they're like, we're looking for an intern. And I'm like, I literally just graduated. Let's do this. And that's where I found out, in the waiting room, when I'm making coffee and I'm helping out and doing things, I'm coming across all of these comedians and rockers and producers that I'm like, why don't I make little Vistaprint cheap, you know, cards and say, do you want to come on my rock show?

S: That doesn't exist. It didn't even exist. There was no show. I just made these business cards and like these huge people were like, yeah, I want to come on. And I'm like, oh my God, I'm going to have to get a camera and a mic and I'm going to have to have this show exist.

AA: Now tell us about your podcast and show you do on YouTube called Steph Rock show. What is that about?

S: I started Steph's Rock Show in 2008. Um, I don't have a website anymore, but I still have the YouTube channel. I just started Steph's Rock Show again as a podcast on Spotify and Instagram, and I absolutely love it. This has always been my favorite hobby. I interview musicians. I'm starting to interview reality stars. Also, some of my friends who have local businesses want to come on and talk about it. If I have an idea that pops into my head, it's so healthy for me to get it off my chest and talk about it.I like listening to other podcasts. Um, sometimes I'll get inspired by another podcast when I talk. Steph's Rock Show is all about fun, music, rock life, and everything, and everyone is welcome.

AA: Who's been your favorite guest so far on your show since you started the show back on YouTube?

S: Honestly, Big Ed, I was shocked when I contacted him. Like, do you want to come on the new show? And he's like, yes, right away. I'm like, no way. I'm dreaming. Why? Like, he's on so many realities show on TLC. He's such a huge personality that he doesn't need to come on my little, tiny new podcast that just started up, but he was so cool, grateful, and easy to interview.

S: So that was really fun and exciting. And then, um, Michael Starr of Steel Panther, I think because he came on Steph's rock show in 2009. So the fact that he came back on the Rock show, but as a podcast in 2024 and we're still friends and we still catch up was neat, like, wow, we've grown up. We've aged quite a bit, but we're still doing what we like, so I thought that was kind of neat.

S: So, I was like booking celebrities before I even had the equipment to, like, do this show. And it just ended up being really fun and working out. But it was funny that I was like, oh, yeah, you know, and then I met Tracy Weidman. I got to give a shout out to her.

S: She is Marilyn Manson, Megadeth, uh, Foreigner, Styx, Kansas, Joan Jett. She is the manager for a lot of incredible acts. And she's like, do you want to come on the road sometimes and get some footage and interview some people? So she definitely got me in the door to get some awesome bands and get kind of just my feet wet on, like, what am I asking?

AA: Regarding your radio job, can you provide insights into what went on behind the scenes? More specifically, what were your daily duties? How did you spend your time from nine to five, or during your working hours?

S: Well, I would say the best way to describe it is when I was at 96.7 for an actual morning job. And people don't understand how difficult that is because I left the house at three in the morning, and I had to be there at 4:30 to research. We went live at 5:00 a.m.

S: So, we did an hour and 30 minutes of research, you know, and printing out a timeline of our bullet points. This is a current event. This is a big thing in the news. This is a sports update. This is what we want to discuss or talk about, so we had different topics to bounce around from. And then you give your all from 5:00 to 10:00 a.m. even though it's 5 hours, I am making sure I'm the funniest, most creative person. So, by the time I'm off work at 10:00 a.m. I was exhausted and drained, and I had another hour to drive home. I'd get home at 11:00 a.m. and crash. Like, I do this weird sleep from like 11:00 a.m. to maybe 4:00 p.m. and then get up and make dinner, you know, watch some shows, relax, have a little bit of a night, and then go back to bed and wake up at 3:00 a.m. All over again. I don't think people realize, like, a morning DJ schedule, you don't really have a life and a lot of friends because your sleep's off and you're really giving 110% when you're on the air.

AA: You mentioned that you conducted various interviews back in the day at the Vans Warped Tour and Mayhem festival. Who were your favorite artists to sit down with and interview? What were some heartbreaking or funny stories they shared with you? Also, can you share a story that really touched your heart?

S: Pierce the Veil was a standout at Vans Warped Tour, sharing that fans once decorated their tour bus with numerous bras.

John5 was a crowd favorite at Mayhem, and Rob Zombie briefly hired him before they decided to continue working together as friends.

S: The most poignant interview was with Steve from Smash Mouth, where he made light of his drug addiction, leaving us unaware of the severity of his situation which eventually led to organ failure.

AA: Since we first connected, you have shared that you've had a lot of experiences dating individuals from the music industry. I'd love to hear about your best and worst dates, as well as your overall experiences with these guys.

S: My most meaningful connection in the industry was with Scott Griffin from LA Guns. In hindsight, the relationship was more significant than I realized back then. Despite its complexities, it was evident that we both genuinely cared for each other. Additionally, Chris Fraizer, the drummer of Whitesnake and now Foreigner, has been a great friend for 20 years.

S: As for my worst dating experiences, none involved well-known individuals. Perhaps the lack of communication and bad timing with Jake from Black Veil Brides was the most challenging. Our youth and immaturity were contributing factors.

I find dating musicians exhilarating. Their passion, talent, and drive are alluring qualities, especially when you know that other women are interested in your partner.

Stefanie & Joey Jordison

AA: Did you experience hardships or struggles during your time working at your radio hosting gigs?  

S: Well, I would not say struggles, I would say I didn't realize when I got married and pregnant and left how hard it would be to get back into radio. Then it was crushing when I was offered a new radio morning position right after having my second child and had no one to care for both of my kids during the time frame. Having to turn down your dream job to parent, but then I ended up starting this podcast six years later. Everything happens for a reason.

Stefanie and "Weird Al" Yankovic

AA: Regarding "Weird Al" Yankovic, did you have a story about that?

S: Yes, I enjoy sharing this story. Since this podcast is new, there are probably many people who haven't heard the Weird Al" Yankovic. I've talked about it a lot over the years on radio shows. It was a crazy experience that I am proud of when I was just 13. I appeared on daytime talk shows to meet Weird Al. Isn't it ridiculous? Who would have thought that sending an email could lead to being flown out to meet someone you admire? Thanks to Donnie and Marie Osmond, and their producer Barry, I got the opportunity to meet Al, chat with him, present gifts, and even have a dance-off.

S: I also got the chance to be a backup dancer for him. I even had a silly crush on him back then. As a nerdy 13-year-old with braces, I jokingly suggested we should get married. He kindly declined, pointing out my age. Looking back, I find it both embarrassing and amusing.

S: Years later, I interviewed him at South by Southwest. I felt embarrassed at first, thinking he wouldn't remember me among his millions of fans worldwide. To my surprise, he did recall me, despite my overzealous fan behavior. Weird Al is truly cool.

S: I was embarrassed by how much of a superfan I was, hoping we would end up together. That was my mindset at that age, as he was my first crush.

AA: Can you talk more about your background in burlesque? What got you interested in this dance form? At what age did you start dancing and when did you become involved in this style of dance? Also, could you explain what burlesque dancing is? Does this art form involve striptease? What kind of opportunities did you get from doing this style of dancing? t

S: My dance journey began at the age of three with ballet and jazz. I transitioned to tap dance at nine and began competing. It wasn't until I turned 20 that I ventured into burlesque, thanks to a suggestion from my boyfriend at the time. I am grateful for his idea, as it has allowed me to showcase my skills in various locations such as Hollywood, Monterey, Austin, TX, and Sacramento. I have a deep appreciation for the sensuality, allure, and expertise that comes with being a formally trained dancer.

AA: Tell us about that a little more. What were you, what were you doing during that time?

S: It was a lot of fun. I had the opportunity to perform in Austin, Texas, at Crazy Girls. I even did a small show there, which surprised people because Dorothy, who is now part of a band called Dorothy with Kara Marie from MTV's The Challenge, was also there at that time.

S: The experience was interesting. We had to wear pasties and bottoms, so no one was completely naked. They served alcohol at the bar where we performed, making it a great show. It was Rock and Roll Wednesdays, which I particularly enjoyed.

S: Every Wednesday, a new band would take the stage at Crazy Girls, allowing us to dance and perform around them. It was a popular spot for celebrities, producers, and rappers to network and connect.

S: I earned a good amount of money performing burlesque at three different clubs across the US. I always had some involvement in burlesque, radio, serving, bartending, and even took up various job opportunities on Craigslist, including Doritos commercial gigs.

AA: How many of those commercial jobs did you end up securing?

S: I pretty much did a bit of everything. I even dated my mom at one point, but that's a whole other story. Remember those quirky reality shows on MTV back in the day? Yeah, those were the only gigs where I had some lines to say.

S: I never landed any major roles, just blended in with the crowd. I'd be at a pool, or you know, just part of the background. It's the norm in LA, right? People in Sacramento would be like, "What? You're just in the background of a random commercial."

S: But hey, in LA, you gotta pay the bills. So, they'd need like 200 people at a certain place and time, and I'd show up and do whatever was needed to earn some cash.

AA: As a single mother, I would like to know more about your journey into motherhood. Could you share your experiences and thoughts on what motherhood means to you? What do you find most fulfilling about being a mother? What principles and teachings do you wish to instill in your children as they mature? Furthermore, how do you address topics that your children learn from their peers? Lastly, how do you manage the balance between work and motherhood responsibilities?

S: Being a mom is hands down the coolest thing I have ever done. My life is no longer about me; my kids come first, and my life has a bigger purpose. I share custody of my kids, which can be difficult, but I’m happy they have amazing fathers. It's a balance like everything in life; I want to be there for them and also remember to take care of myself mentally. This podcast has brought me a lot of joy; while they're at school, I get the episodes finished and edited. I would define motherhood as the hardest and best thing you could ever do. I almost died giving birth to my second child, and I would do it all over again. Insane, right?! Ha.

AA: Can you share an experience from your past that significantly impacted you personally?

S: I think having a traumatic childhood and growing up fast gives you comedy and life perspective. My parents fought and hated one another and stayed together "for me," but divorced right after I left for college. Then my father started to slowly pull away and eventually disappeared from my life. Today, I am not close with either of my parents and have been a lone wolf for years. Being independent, I love connecting with friends and rockstars and talking since I don't have my own tribe. I have also noticed that children who grew up in high-stress situations usually become great journalists, or most radio DJs come from wild pasts.

AA: What are your three favorite movies, books, shows, and podcasts, and why?

S: The top three movies I enjoy the most are Labyrinth, The Dark Crystal, and The Rocky Horror Picture Show. While I used to be an avid reader of self-help books, nowadays whenever I try to read, I end up falling asleep. My preferred show is "Love After Lockup" as I consider myself a hopeful romantic and find a connection with the characters.

S: When it comes to podcasts, I favor Tim Dillon, Joe Rogan, and Baby Mamas No Drama. I appreciate their take on news, current events, co-parenting, and enjoy delving deep into history.

AA: Tell me about the three most influential people in your life and how they affected you positively or negatively.        

S: Although my grandfather was a highly esteemed judge and my role model, he unfortunately fell victim to alcohol addiction in his 70s. My sons serve as my source of inspiration. I hold them in high regard; their encouragement has driven me to enhance myself and upgrade my culinary and housekeeping abilities. My closest friend, G, is an exceptionally conscientious doctor who has consistently stood by me. She is fluent in the native tongue of each location we explore, which helps me stay connected to reality.

AA: What would you say if you had the world's attention for 5 minutes?

S: Don't trip, we are all in this matrix together, try not to get divided, and if you are thinking about saying it and it would affect someone positively - say it!

AA: We appreciate your openness, Stepfanie and thank you for sharing insights into your personal and professional life.

Stefanie - Radio Personality & Podcaster

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