Behind the Spotlight: An Interview with Pole Dancer and Singer Jacqueline Agramonte

I had the pleasure of interviewing artist Jacqueline Agramonte, where we discussed her upbringing, her interest in music and pole dancing, her studies to become a therapist, and her various interests. I hope you enjoy reading it.

Amit Ahuja: Please share your background with us. I'd love to learn about where you're from, your upbringing, and how your cultural heritage has influenced who you are today. Also, what significant life experiences have played a crucial role in shaping your identity?

Jacqueline Agramonte: My name is Jacqueline Agramonte, but everyone calls me Jackie. I am 32 years old and from Lake Elsinore, California. I have lived in Southern California my entire life, but my parents are actually immigrants. My father came to the United States from Cuba at the age of 16, while my mother was born and raised in Tijuana, Mexico, and came to the U.S. when she married my father at 25. Believe it or not, Spanish was my first language, and I learned English in preschool, which I think is pretty cool! As a child, my two younger brothers and I would spend a few weeks at a time in Tijuana during summer breaks, and we used to visit frequently throughout the rest of the year.

Jacqueline Agramonte: It's difficult to pinpoint and summarize which life experiences shaped me, as I believe every moment has played a role in molding me into the person I am today. Growing up in a strict religious and conservative household significantly influenced my rebellion against outdated views and traditions that serve only to control and oppress self-expression, despite their negative impact on mental health. Such rigid beliefs have the potential to create distance between family members and people in general. That said, my diverse cultural background and experiences with religion have made me very accepting and curious about different cultures and ideologies. I value inclusivity and self expression, and for me, it is crucial to spread love and acceptance, regardless of the culture, beliefs, values, or traditions an individual may have. I believe that everyone on this Earth deserves to be seen and understood. The one guideline I try to follow as best as I can is to do no harm to living beings, including myself.

Jacqueline Agramonte: As far as identities go, I believe the less you identify with anything, the more freedom you have to be yourself! "The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, personal and family history, belief systems, and often also political, nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you." -Eckhart Tolle

Amit Ahuja: I am genuinely fascinated by the story behind your musical journey. I would love to know what specific moment or experience ignited your passion for music and how you decided to pursue it. What were your challenges, and what steps did you take to turn your passion into a successful musical journey?

Jacqueline Agramonte: I've always felt a deep connection with music, even from a young age. I vividly remember being around 9 years old, laying on the floor with my new portable Walkman, crying to Celine Dion and Backstreet Boys. Honestly, I have no idea what I was crying about since I had a great childhood, but the music clearly hit me hard! I used to fill my diary with lyrics and would daydream about being the frontwoman of a rock band. One of the most defining moments for me was when I first heard harsh vocals. I had a crush on this guy in middle school, and I somehow got my hands on a CD from his binder. The first thing I heard was, “she wore crushed velvet, jet black, and to the floor,” followed by intense screaming —and my life was never the same. I was instantly obsessed but had to keep it a secret since, according to my parents, it was “devil music.” Honestly, the taboo only made me love it more.

Jacqueline Agramonte: On the flip side, my mom used to play piano and sing, and I loved listening to her. Eventually, my parents put me in guitar, piano, and voice lessons, which I enjoyed, but I was too impatient to stick with it at that age. I mostly focused on dance throughout my life but would dabble in music here and there, like joining choir in middle school and taking private lessons again in high school. Later on, I joined a women’s choir, which was a lot of fun, but mostly, I just obsessively went to shows and karaoke bars to get my fix.

Jacqueline Agramonte: I also got to be a vocal guinea pig for my brother when he was studying music production, which gave me a lot of insight into the recording process. But the real turning point was when my boyfriend, Anthony Ornelas from Where It Lies, asked me to sing clean vocals for a Killswitch Engage cover he was working on. After that, people started asking if I was in a band.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Eventually, I was asked to feature on the new Breaking Serenity album alongside Alexia from Eyes Set to Kill. When Anthony told me, I was like, “You’re joking, right?” I couldn’t believe it was a real offer. But from there, everything just snowballed!

Amit Ahuja: Is there a particular artist whose music and personal journey have profoundly influenced your decision to pursue your passion for music? Did their story inspire you to take the leap and form your band? Please share how their experiences and artistry have shaped your musical path.

Jacqueline Agramonte: There are many strong women in music that I look up to but I think Hayley Williams from Paramore has been my biggest influence. I admire her stage presence, uniqueness, vulnerability, and undeniable vocal poweress. I think I have listened to so much Paramore that I have inadvertently picked up a lot of Hayley’s style, or so I’ve been told. However, I was never brave enough to try and form my own band at such a young age she did! I wish I had taken a page out of her book much sooner!

Amit Ahuja: I'm interested in learning about your involvement of being in a band. How did the members first connect and decide to form the group? What's the story behind the band's name, and why was it chosen? Additionally, I'm eager to hear about your journey and the experiences you've had since the band was established.

Jacqueline Agramonte: The band I was previously involved with, which had a concept rooted in alternative metal, was centered around the idea of a young girl named Serenity who escapes into an imaginary world to cope with the chaos of the 2020 pandemic and a dysfunctional home life. From what I understood, much of the music was written and recorded during the pandemic with a different vocalist, long before I joined. I was initially invited to feature on one track, and later in December 2023, I was asked to perform a couple of songs live at a show scheduled for March 2024. I agreed, with the caveat that the songs needed to be in my range. To be honest, I tried to back out a few times because my voice felt out of shape and the material was demanding.

Jacqueline Agramonte: In January, I went to a rehearsal just to feel things out. After that, I was asked to officially join. I wasn’t given much detail about the original lineup, but it seemed like some members weren’t available for live shows, so I was brought in. The first show was already booked without a complete lineup, so we jumped into rehearsals. What began as a small collaboration quickly snowballed into me taking on the role of frontwoman and clean vocalist. That seemed to be a pattern—most people involved had their own story about how they ended up there.

Jacqueline Agramonte: During my time with the group, I had the opportunity to try things I never imagined doing. I re recorded and released “Hypocrite” with my vocals, and that version got a bit of radio play. There were plans to rework other songs as well. Performing live in the metal scene for the first time was a huge milestone for me personally, and I was able to collaborate with some really talented artists along the way. I even had the chance to open for bands like Powerman 5000 and Trapt.

Jacqueline Agramonte: One of my proudest moments was participating in the music video for “Ain’t Got No Time,” which featured some of my closest pole friends. Two of them also joined me on stage to perform the piece live. That fusion of pole and metal felt incredibly aligned with who I am as an artist. Not everything behind the scenes went smoothly, and ultimately the environment wasn’t sustainable for me, but those creative highlights are still something I carry with pride.

Amit Ahuja: How do you manage the emotional and financial fluctuations of being a musician, including the highs of performing and creating music and the lows of uncertainty and financial instability?

Jacqueline Agramonte: We live in an era where pursuing a career in music is rarely financially viable. Currently, I have a flexible job bartending at a live music venue, which allows me to focus on my master’s program, music, and pole dancing. I've noticed that most people I know who are in bands also hold full time jobs outside of their musical endeavors. Regarding emotional highs and lows, it can be quite challenging. Being in a band requires a lot of time and effort; you can spend weeks or even months preparing for a show. The performance itself is exhilarating, but once it's over, I often find it difficult to come down from that high. I typically try to keep a busy to-do list o

Amit Ahuja: For individuals looking to establish themselves as musicians, what advice or tips can you provide to help them navigate the music scene and build a successful career? "If you could share the stage with any artist from any genre, who would you collaborate with and why?

Jacqueline Agramonte: Well, let me preface this by saying that though I wish music could be my full-time job, I am not there just yet! But it is obviously important to work on your skills and put yourself out there on social media platforms, however, networking is equally important. Going to as many local shows as possible and making genuine connections with other musicians will open up many opportunities. If I could share the stage with any artist it would be Hayley Williams from Paramore hands down. It’s embarrassing how many dreams I have had where she calls me up on stage!

Amit Ahuja: What's your strategy for networking and forging connections in the vibrant world of the music industry?

Jacqueline Agramonte:  My strategy is pretty simple: just be genuine. I make an effort to attend shows, engage with people, and really get to know them. I follow them on social media and do my best to keep those connections alive over time. I honestly believe that’s all it takes.

Jacqueline Agramonte: : Over the years, I’ve also seen firsthand how being fake or two-faced always ends up working against people in the long run. The music scene may seem big, but it’s actually a pretty small world, and word gets around. I’d rather build real relationships based on mutual respect and authenticity than try to network through shallow or performative means. That approach has served me well so far.

AA: Have you had the opportunity to collaborate with other artists, or have you been involved in any musical projects outside the band? I’d love to hear about any experiences you've had working with different musicians or exploring various styles and genres beyond your regular band activities.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Over the past year, I had the chance to share the stage with some incredible artists through various collaborations. Before stepping into that world, my only experience was in choir, which has a very different energy but was meaningful in its own way. One of my favorite side projects was a Killswitch Engage cover I recorded with my boyfriend. It was such a fun process, and we definitely plan to work on more together. I also finally got to perform “Woven Web” with Where It Lies, a moment that had been teased for years, so it was really rewarding to see that come to life.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Since leaving the band, quite a few people have reached out to ask if I’d be open to collaborating with them, both on and off stage. That kind of encouragement means a lot, and I hope I continue to have many opportunities to work with musicians who align with my energy and values. I would love to join another band if I find the right fit, one where collaboration, creativity, and mutual respect are at the core of the experience.

Amit Ahuja: Could you describe the experience of being a musician, particularly in the role of the frontwoman for your band? What challenges and rewards do you face in this position, and how do they shape your artistic journey?

Jacqueline Agramonte: Being a frontwoman was a powerful experience. I stepped into the role because I love singing, and performing live gave me the chance to fully let go and connect with the crowd. Interacting with the audience and feeding off their energy was an incredible feeling. One small challenge, though, was speaking between songs. Since we had rotating collaborators, I often handled introductions, which made me nervous. Singing came naturally; public speaking, not so much. But I pushed through and grew from it. What was harder to navigate was the internal culture of the band itself. There were sexist “jokes,” moments of being dismissed or talked over, and a general lack of respect that made it difficult to feel safe or valued. When I brought up concerns, they were reframed as personal sensitivity. I was told that everyone was entitled to speak freely in private, but that we were all expected to protect the band’s image publicly. They justified the behavior as being “real and raw” and dismissed my concerns by pointing out that other people were worse.

Jacqueline Agramonte: As a therapist-in-training, I am held to strict ethical standards that I fully agree with and take seriously. Staying in that environment would have posed a real threat to my future in the field. On top of the harmful language and attitudes toward women, I was made aware of physical violence taking place in venue restrooms. I cannot be part of spaces where this kind of behavior is normalized, enabled, or ignored.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Leaving was not about one single thing, but it was necessary for my well-being. I’m proud of the performances and creative moments I had, and I’m even prouder that I chose to walk away when my values no longer aligned with the environment.

Amit Ahuja: You mentioned that your new career focus is as a therapist-in-training, what specific kind of therapist are you working towards becoming—is it a clinical psychologist, marriage counselor, or perhaps a child therapist? Additionally, what experiences or events ignited your enthusiasm for pursuing a career in this field? Was it a personal journey, a profound moment, or perhaps an influential figure in your life that inspired you to help others on their path to healing and self-discovery? What do you see yourself doing in this field the next 5 years?

Jacqueline Agramonte: I appreciate the interest in my therapy career! Here is my answer to all of those questions regarding that aspect of my life :) I’m a little over halfway through my master’s program in Marriage and Family Therapy. I chose this path because it felt like the most holistic branch of mental health. MFTs recognize that people don’t exist in isolation. Our mental health is shaped by our relationships, our environment, and the systems we move through. I also love how versatile this field is. Marriage and family therapists can work with individuals, couples, and families in a wide range of settings, like private practice, schools, hospitals, treatment centers, and through telehealth.

Jacqueline Agramonte: It took me some time to find this direction. I got my bachelor’s in Art from SDSU, then explored a few different paths. I worked as a personal trainer, went back to school for diagnostic medical sonography, and started a permanent makeup business during the pandemic while bartending on the side. Eventually, I realized that being a business owner wasn’t what I wanted. I narrowed it down to either physical therapy or mental health. Financial aid wasn’t available for PT school, so I started researching mental health therapy programs instead, and I’m so glad I did. Once I found Marriage and Family Therapy, it felt like everything aligned.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Looking back, I don’t know why it took me so long to realize this was what I was meant to do. The signs were always there. I’ve always been someone who feels things deeply. I took psychology classes in high school and college, and I would spend my free time reading, researching, or listening to podcasts about human behavior and relationships just for fun. I also volunteered with an organization that hosted summer camps for children in the foster care system, and I was part of a year-long mentorship program where I spent weekends hanging out with foster youth and showing up for them in the things they loved. That experience was incredibly meaningful to me. Even as a personal trainer and permanent makeup artist, people often opened up to me. I found that being a supportive listener felt really natural and fulfilling.

Jacqueline Agramonte: My own mental health journey has also played a big role in why I chose this career. I struggled with anxiety, depression, and disordered eating when I was younger. Therapy helped me get through some really hard seasons. I’ve had some amazing therapists who supported me in becoming more self-aware, grounded, and compassionate toward myself. I truly believe therapy can be helpful for anyone, not just when you’re in crisis, but even just for growth and reflection. I also believe that both mental and physical health should be a priority for everyone. Without first tending to those core needs, it can feel like an uphill battle to find joy, balance, or real connection in life.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Since January, I’ve been volunteering as a bilingual crisis text line counselor. It’s been one of the most impactful experiences I’ve had so far. Supporting people during some of their hardest moments has only reaffirmed that I’m on the right path. The work is intense, and I’m still figuring out how to carry heavy stories while also protecting my own peace, but I really do feel like I’m made for this. It’s a privilege to be trusted by someone who’s in pain and to help them feel a little less alone.

Jacqueline Agramonte: But here’s the thing: I’m also pursuing music and pole. If life takes me down the path to being a full-time therapist, I’d be extremely happy with that. But if I had the chance to build a career in music or dance, I’d jump on it in a heartbeat. With how unpredictable those fields can be, though, I’d still make sure to keep my license to practice therapy.

Jacqueline Agramonte: In the next five years, I hope to graduate, complete my licensure hours, and begin working as a telehealth therapist. That would give me the flexibility to keep doing meaningful work, and make a decent living, while still making space for the other parts of my life that bring me joy, like music and pole. I want to continue learning and evolving so I can offer the kind of presence and support that truly helps people heal.

Jacqueline Agramonte: At the end of the day, freedom of expression is one of my core values. If I could make a living doing something that allows me to be creative, I’d be all in. I honestly can’t stand the restrictive corporate rules, like banning tattoos and piercings or enforcing boring dress codes. To me, those things have zero impact on how well you do your job. And don’t even get me started on the stuffy language in work emails! If I never had to read “as per our last email” again, I’d be thrilled. A career that lets me skip all of that and just be myself? That’s the dream.

Amit Ahuja I've observed that you also have a remarkable passion for pole dancing alongside your beautiful singing. It truly fascinates me! I'm eager to learn more about how you became interested in this captivating art form. Was there a specific experience or person who inspired you to dive into pole dancing? Additionally, I’d love to hear about the particular style of pole dancing that you enjoy practicing the most. Is it the athleticism and strength of pole sport, the sensuality of exotic dance, or perhaps something entirely different that captivates you?

Jacqueline Agramonte: I'm so glad you asked this question! As I briefly mentioned, I was mainly a dancer throughout my younger years. I started with tap and ballet at age 4 and continued to build my dance repertoire over the next 14 years. Alongside ballet and tap, I explored jazz, lyrical, modern, character, and hip hop. I even spent a season with a modern dance company in Temecula while pursuing my undergraduate studies.

Jacqueline Agramonte: After that, I took a break from dancing and focused on weightlifting for about 10 years. But in 2019, I became curious about pole fitness and decided to explore different active hobbies during the pandemic because I felt like something was missing. When things opened back up, I joined a pole class, but I'll admit, after my first session, I almost didn’t return, it was incredibly painful to grip the pole with my skin! But I was at a point in my life where I needed to prove to myself that I could stick with something, no matter how challenging or humbling it might be.

Once I pushed through that initial discomfort, I quickly became hooked. While I was decent at the dance aspect, it took me a long time to get comfortable with the tricks. There’s definitely no room for ego in pole dancing. I found it to be the perfect blend of strength, athleticism, dance, and artistry.

Jacqueline Agramonte: As you mentioned, pole dancing has many sides to it. For those who aren’t into the sensual aspect, there are classes that focus solely on pole tricks, emphasizing athleticism. Within pole, there are various styles, some more sensual than others. Personally, I love the challenge of combining dance with tricks, and the style that resonates with me most is "Russian Exotic." It blends the strength and mobility I’ve developed over time with the techniques I learned in ballet, plus a touch of sensual movement.

Jacqueline Agramonte: I have to highlight the profound impact pole dancing has had on my relationship with my body. I’ve been on a long journey to recover from the eating disorders I struggled with in my early 20s, and I was still dealing with remnants of body dysmorphia until I started pole. Through pole dancing, I’ve learned to feel comfortable in my own skin and to celebrate my body’s strength. Watching recordings of myself performing challenging tricks in minimal clothing has given me a new appreciation for what my body can do rather than focusing on how it looks. For context, attempting pole tricks fully clothed is often unsafe or nearly impossible, depending on the move. Interestingly, in the pole world, wearing more clothing is actually a flex because of how challenging it makes the tricks!

Jacqueline Agramonte: Also, you might notice that what you see in the mirror can look completely different in motion on video. I don’t know if that makes sense to those who haven’t faced similar struggles, but it has truly been a game-changer for me!

Jacqueline Agramonte: I also want to talk about the incredible community that has formed at my current pole studio, Vixen Pole Fitness. I admire the women there so much. They come from all walks of life, including nurses, teachers, therapists, hairstylists, bartenders, social workers, and more. What stands out most is how kind, supportive, humble, authentic, and emotionally intelligent they are. Being surrounded by people like that has been truly inspiring.

Amit Ahuja: What does success look like to you?

Jacqueline Agramonte: To me, success means living to the fullest and aligning with my morals and values. It means being at peace with my choices and lifestyle. And in a very practical way, it means supporting myself financially without constantly being burnt out.

Amit Ahuja: How do you define happiness in your own life?

Jacqueline Agramonte: Happiness, for me, is the freedom to fully express myself and engage in activities that bring me joy. It's about making my own choices and, honestly, being well-rested—because I’m definitely not happy when I don’t get enough sleep!

Amit Ahuja: What are some activities you enjoy doing in your free time?

JA: When I’m not at pole, band practice, or working on homework, I love spending time with my boyfriend and friends (if my social battery is charged!). I also enjoy going on runs with my dogs, doing mobility and weight training, or relaxing with cozy games on my Nintendo Switch. Crocheting and reading romantasy or thriller novels are also favorite ways to unwind. I also have a ton of plants, so I’m often doing plant chores, which I find meditative.

Jacqueline Agramonte: I’m a huge nerd for all things health and wellness, from the science behind skincare to functional and naturopathic medicine, nutrition, and psychology—I’m always reading, researching, or listening to podcasts on these topics. But honestly, when I’m feeling burnt out, I often find myself doom-scrolling on TikTok instead of diving into these other hobbies!

Amit Ahuja: Share three individuals who have significantly influenced your life, positively or negatively, and explain why.

Jacqueline Agramonte: This is a tough question because so many people have influenced my life, but I’d have to say my boyfriend, Anthony, has had one of the biggest impacts. I admire so many aspects of his personality that I’ve been trying to adopt myself. While I can be very Type A, planning and scheduling every detail, he’s more laid-back and flexible, which has taught me to go with the flow a bit more. Though this difference can sometimes cause tension, I’ve noticed I’m slowly becoming less rigid. I also deeply respect his humility; as I get older, I realize how an inflated ego can be a real barrier in connecting with others. Anthony’s lack of ego shows true self-worth and confidence, and that’s something I aspire to as well.

Jacqueline Agramonte: He’s also inspired me to pursue my passions without needing to be “perfect.” I’ve seen him perform and treat any negative self-critique as a learning experience. He doesn’t let what others think hold him back, which has shown me how to value growth over perfection. For the longest time, I told myself I’d join a band or pursue dancing when I was “good enough,” but his encouragement pushed me to go for it sooner. His generosity, patience, ability to let things go, and unshakable drive are all qualities I’m trying to develop in myself. Honestly, I could go on forever about how much he’s made me a better person.

Jacqueline Agramonte: My parents have been a major influence in my life, for better or for worse. They provided for me financially, even covering my undergrad education, which I recognize as a huge privilege. They also enrolled me in dance and music lessons from a young age, which shaped much of who I am today. I know they love me, and I’m grateful for that. Yet, despite their best efforts to be there for me emotionally within the framework of their religious and moral beliefs, I often felt like I couldn’t be fully accepted by them. Ironically, this experience sparked my passion for helping others feel loved and accepted, perhaps even motivating me to pursue a career as a therapist. If I can help even one person feel truly heard, validated, and understood, then the challenges of growing up as the “black sheep” in my family will have been worth it.

Amit Ahuja: When it comes to movies, what are some of your all-time favorites? What is it about these particular movies that resonate with you? Is it the storytelling, the characters, the cinematography, or something else? 

Jacqueline Agramonte: Okay, I might be a little lame, but one of my all-time favorite movies is Freaky Friday with Lindsay Lohan. I remember watching it when I was young and just loving everything about it: the band, the romance, the family coming together! It really touched my heart because I wanted all of that. Plus, it’s a pretty funny movie!

Jacqueline Agramonte: Another favorite of mine is The Greatest Showman. I think it’s such a moving story about acceptance and inclusivity. Barnum’s circus celebrates “oddities” and marginalized people, highlighting the beauty of embracing diversity and challenging norms. And of course, the performances are incredible!

Jacqueline Agramonte: Then there’s Sweeney Todd, which is just a whole mood for me. I love the gloomy London setting, the dark storyline, and those intense musical numbers.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Black Swan is another one of my all-time favorites. It’s such an intense psychological thriller, and as someone with a ballet background, I find a lot of the themes really relatable. It captures the perfectionism, discipline, and mental toll that can come with dance, but pushes them to this terrifying extreme. The movie dives into themes of obsession, identity, and sacrifice, and the way it blurs reality with hallucination just pulls me in every time. And then there’s Midsommar, which is an entirely different kind of unsettling. For me, it’s like a twisted piece of art—stunning but deeply uncomfortable to watch. I can’t get over the contrast of bright, idyllic imagery with such dark, disturbing themes. There’s something so haunting about that contrast, almost like a reminder that not everything is as it seems. It’s a slow-burn horror that stays with you long after it’s over, which I think makes it even more powerful.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Lastly, I’m a huge fan of The Dirt. I’ve actually been on the hunt for another movie that captures that classic sex, drugs, and rock 'n' roll as well as this one. I’ve always been fascinated by the wild stories from '80s bands. There’s something about the recklessness that appeals to the part of me that grew up in a super conservative household and felt so caged in.

Amit Ahuja: As for TV shows, which ones do you find yourself eagerly tuning in to? What about these shows captivates you—could it be the plot twists, character development, or the overall production quality?

Jacqueline Agramonte: As for TV shows, which ones do you find yourself eagerly tuning in to? What about these shows captivates you—could it be the plot twists, character development, or the overall production quality? Here’s a non-exhaustive list of some of my favorite series! Sabrina, American Horror Story: Coven, The Haunting of Hill House, Lucifer, Mayfair Witches, The Fall of the House of Usher, Shameless, Gilmore Girls, Grey’s Anatomy, House, So You Think You Can Dance, Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders, Love is Blind, and pretty much any true crime series.

Jacqueline Agramonte: I’ll spare you the in-depth analysis on all of these, but it’s safe to say each show reflects a different side of my very eclectic personality. I love anything witchy or spooky, shows that bring some humor, a bit of trash TV, human psychology, stories about love and acceptance in families, medical dramas, the behind-the-scenes lives of dancers, and of course, the macabre. Honestly, this list looks a lot like my music library—all over the place!

Amit Ahuja: Regarding books, which ones are at the top of your list? What makes these books stand out to you? Is it the writing style, the themes, or the emotions they evoke?

Jacqueline Agramonte: One of my all-time favorite books is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, a secular spiritual guide on the transformative power of living in the present. Though the concept may sound simple, Tolle’s insights are truly impactful. I also love Atomic Habits by James Clear and The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, both of which delve into how small, consistent habits shape our lives and offer practical advice on making lasting changes.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Other non-fiction favorites include Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel, which explores intimacy and desire in long-term relationships; Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski, a science-based look at female sexuality and wellness; Does the Noise in My Head Bother You? by Steven Tyler, a rock-and-roll memoir with fascinating stories from Aerosmith’s frontman; and The Dorito Effect by Mark Schatzker, a deep dive into the science behind food flavor and cravings. I also enjoy anything by Brené Brown, whose work on vulnerability and courage is both inspiring and insightful.

Jacqueline Agramonte: For fiction, I’m a fan of the Blood and Ash series by Jennifer L. Armentrout, an immersive fantasy romance; Verity and Layla by Colleen Hoover, both gripping thrillers with dark twists; Sharp Objects by Gillian Flynn, a chilling psychological thriller; and The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins, a suspenseful mystery. I also enjoy reading anything by Mary Kay Andrews for her cozy and heartfelt storytelling, The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho for its philosophical journey of self-discovery, and Life of Pi by Yann Martel, an adventurous tale that explores spirituality and survival.

Jacqueline Agramonte: I’ll admit I was also captivated by the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer and The Hunger Games series by Suzanne Collins when I was younger. There are so many more I could add, but these are the first that come to mind!

Amit Ahuja: Which podcasts do you highly recommend and why? What sets these podcasts apart from others, in your opinion? Do they offer valuable insights, entertaining content, or something else that keeps you hooked?

Jacqueline Agramonte: I absolutely love podcasts! One of my all-time favorites is Mind Pump, which covers all things health and fitness, with a strong focus on weightlifting and nutrition. They dive into new scientific research as well as personal experiences. The Huberman Lab podcast is another standout, as it explores neuroscience and how it applies to daily life and performance.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Diary of a CEO offers deep conversations with leaders and thinkers on business and personal growth, while The Cabral Concept gives practical insights on natural health and wellness. For intriguing history tidbits, Cabinet of Curiosities shares unusual and fascinating short stories, and Lore brings dark historical legends and folklore to life. Dishing Up Nutrition focuses on practical advice for balanced eating, and How to Money is great for learning personal finance tips.

Jacqueline Agramonte: I enjoy On Purpose with Jay Shetty for its inspirational talks on relationships and purpose, and Sex with Emily for open, educational discussions about relationships and intimacy.

Jacqueline Agramonte: For broad-ranging knowledge, Stuff You Should Know explores fun, random topics, and TED Talks Daily, TED Health, and TED Talks Science and Medicine are excellent sources for science and wellness insights in short, digestible episodes. Lastly, The Jeff Nippard Podcast is fantastic for deep dives into the science behind fitness and muscle building. These are just a few of my go-to podcasts, and each brings something unique to my day!

Amit Ahuja: I'm interested in learning about your favorite bands or music artists that you're passionate about. Additionally, I'd love to hear all the details about your most memorable concert experience - the atmosphere, the performance, the venue, and anything else that made it special for you.

Jacqueline Agramonte: Ok here we go, I’m just going to list some of my all time favorite bands, artists, and albums knowing that I will be forgetting many. Paramore, Emarosa, Dance Gavin Dance, Dexcore, Slaves, The Home Team, Jinjer, Spiritbox, Avenged Sevenfold, Pierce the Veil, Killswitch Engage, Evanescence, AFI, Bad Omens, Red Handed Denial, Black Veil Brides, After the Burial, Bring Me The Horizon, Memphis Mayfire, Issues, Crosses, Conquer Divide, Florence and the Machine, Incubus, Born To Die album by Lana Del Rey, 24k Magic album by Bruno Mars, Three Cheers for Sweet Revenge Album by My Chemical Romance, I Love You Album by the Neighbourhood, Highly Suspect, Hawthorne Heights, Alice In Chains, Of Mice and Men, Sleeping with Sirens, The Pretty Reckless, Thirty Seconds to Mars, We Came as Romans, The Valley album by White Chapel. Beyoncé.

Jacqueline Agramonte: One time, my great friend Julia invited me to a Color Morale show at Soma in San Diego. I didn’t know the band too well, but I tagged along, and it was tons of fun. We were right up in the front row and everything. Then a band member suddenly asks, “Are you guys ready to see Jonny Craig in Slaves?!” I turned to Julia like, “Wait... he’s in the headlining band?!” Look, I know he has a terrible reputation, but damn, can he sing. I guess I stopped following him after he got kicked out of yet another band, or maybe after the MacBook debacle, so it took me by complete surprise—it ended up being such an amazing show!

Jacqueline Agramonte: Oh, and I once saw Incubus at an amphitheater with my brother. We were really close to the front; it was a perfect summer night, the visuals were incredible, and Incubus always sounds great live. We were completely immersed in the set. Honestly, not much can top that experience.

Jacqueline Agramonte: More recently, I cried tears of joy at a Jinjer show, also at Soma, with Anthony. I had been worried that my job’s involvement in live music and attending so many of Anthony’s shows might have dulled my love and enthusiasm for live concerts. This was before my involvement with Breaking Serenity, so I was so relieved to find out that I can still cry like a baby when I’m overcome with emotion at a live show.

Amit Ahuja: Could you share some insights into your journey with mental health and how it has shaped your life?

Jacqueline Agramonte: Mental health is one of my greatest passions, and I’m currently pursuing a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy. My journey with mental health began in my late teens when I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, an autoimmune condition that affects the thyroid and leads to hypothyroidism. Undiagnosed for some time, it took a toll on both my body and mind—I experienced rapid weight gain, which led to eating disorders, hair and eyebrow loss, severe depression, constant exhaustion, and overwhelming anxiety.

Jacqueline Agramonte: It wasn’t until my mother’s doctor in Tijuana diagnosed her and suggested she bring me in as well that I began my journey toward healing. Balancing my thyroid levels with medication helped, but I also relied on antidepressants, anti-anxiety meds, and therapy for years. With the support of some wonderful therapists, I was able to recover from my eating disorders, and I discovered that knowledge was an empowering tool for managing my mental health. Learning about nutrition and weightlifting not only helped me regain control over my anxiety and depression but allowed me to reach a healthy body composition.

Jacqueline Agramonte: This experience ignited a passion for learning, especially in psychology. As I continued my research and therapy, I gradually came off all prescriptions except for my thyroid medication, which I’ll need for life. By 28, I had my health conditions largely under control, but I still struggled with overwhelm. Finally, at 29, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and even the lowest dose of medication was transformative. It gave me the focus I needed to balance my master’s program, pole, band, and relationships. I’ve never felt more stable or

grateful.

Jacqueline Agramonte: One day, I hope to manage without ADHD medication by building healthy routines and making new neural connections while on the meds. But for now, I recognize the support it gives me. My experiences have taught me that caring for your mental health can truly change the course of your life.

Amit Ahuja: Imagine you can step back in time and live in any historical period. Which era would you choose, and what draws you to it? Dive into the allure of the past and let your imagination wander!

Jacqueline Agramonte: Oh man, I know this may not sound super fun, but I don't think I'd actually want to live in the past. The further back in time you go, the less autonomy women had and the less we understood about our own biology. I'm genuinely grateful to live in a time where we have modern medicine, and where I have the freedom to do whatever I want without needing a man’s permission.

Jacqueline Agramonte: But if those issues weren’t a factor? Then I'd love to experience the 80s when hair metal was in its prime! Or maybe live in a castle with my dragon or be a forest which surrounded by animal friends. I know that's more about setting than time period, but I'm way more into environment than the era itself!

Amit Ahuja: How do you stay motivated and focused on your goals during times of uncertainty or change?

Jacqueline Agramonte:  Ironically, my coping strategy for dealing with uncertainty is to focus on my goals. I try to control what I can and let go of what I can’t—though I’m still working on that part. Setting a goal and creating a plan, or developing a new habit to achieve it, is actually quite therapeutic for me. It helps break everything down into manageable steps, making things feel less overwhelming. Once I concentrate on the daily tasks, everything else tends to fall into place.

Jacqueline Agramonte: It's important to note that motivation can fluctuate, so you can't depend solely on it to accomplish your goals. Instead, discipline is what will ultimately help you persevere. While it's essential to listen to your body and take breaks for your mental health, when necessary, generally speaking, discipline is what you can truly rely on.

Amit Ahuja: What message would each member share with everyone if you had the world's attention for five minutes?

Jacqueline Agramonte: Live a life that actually feels authentic and brings you a balance of passion and peace. Not one that’s performative or only looks good from the outside while leaving you feeling empty. You won’t be thinking about money, fame, or status on your deathbed. What will matter is how you spent your time, the relationships you built, the impact you made, the way you cared for others, and what you gave back. Be kind. Stay humble. And when you mess up, take responsibility. Learn from it. Grow. Know how to offer a real, sincere apology. It matters.

Jacqueline Agramonte: But don’t confuse kindness with letting people walk all over you. Having empathy doesn’t mean abandoning your boundaries. You’re allowed to walk away from people and places that don’t respect you. That’s true self-worth, and that’s where it all starts.

Amit Ahuja: Thanks to Jacqueline Agramonte for sharing her story and interest with us!

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